Taken from todays Daily Prompt:
Showdown at Big Sky
How do you handle conflict? Boldly or Directly? Or, do you prefer a more subtle approach.
I personally favour the running away approach. For this method to be successful there need not be screaming, crying or flailing of arms, they are entirely optional and a matter for personal choice.
There is also the ‘Ostrich’. I’m good at that one too, although instead of burying my head in sand it’s usually my pillow.
Unlike a kettle I tend to go off the boil rather quickly. I’ll get myself all worked up about something and start to put my point across, but if someone then counteracts me, while starting a gentle rolling boil themselves, I tend to back off, whether I am right or wrong.
It’s one of the many pet hates I have about myself and I am sure it most likely stems from a lack of confidence. I need to be able to learn to put my point across, without losing the plot and boiling over, something that thankfully I don’t do all that often.
If all else fails, go into a dark room and have a serious think about where your life is going until such times as the conflict situation has subsided.
I’ve been doing this for years and I still have no idea where I am headed, so best of luck!
You could build self-confidence by doing it one conflict at a time, first dipping in your toes, then getting a little wet (still talking about conflict here,) until you’re comfortable with the less savory stuff: escalation, advanced self-extraction . . . Until some day you’re ready to explore the nuclear option — although I recommend a full year at bodybuilding and mixed martial arts before you consider trying it with anyone. Then there’s the people who can teach you to kill by using a person’s pressure points, but they don’t come cheap so you’ll probably want to work on your employer negotiation techniques at the same time (not to be confused with Street Fighting 201.)
I’ll be honest, I’ve had my time as the back-down-type, and it’s nowhere near as thrilling as standing your ground or even pushing your point beyond a simple statement. Mix in a matter-of-fact observation of the other person’s character, and as long as you’re in the right, people will look up to you.
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The degrees of escalation are worrying me slightly, there may come an issue if I reach nuclear….!!
I think that said, I may have to address the issue before it gets to that stage, a melt down is never good lol
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I was referencing more of a missile! Sometimes you gotta hulk out!
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Knowing my luck I’d explode mid air ffs! lol
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But what a story that would be, am I right?? :D
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Oh aye, if you could ever piece it, or me for that matter, together lol
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Someday you’re going to be all ‘I’m going to do it for Surfer Rob!’ And then you’re going to lay into someone
Big time and make them cry because they know they’re so wrong.
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And see right after that happens I am going to die from the worst case of worry the world has ever seen!!
You’re supposed to be my friend, you’re a bad influence laddie lol
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Well maybe I should just keep my trap shut. ;)
I’ve always been one of the little shoulder-devils. :D
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lol No, please don’t keep your trap shut. You are very entertaining :)
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The feeling is quite mutual. :D
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I think you should aim the flailing of arms at the source of the conflict.
Hey, if you can’t beat em, confuse em!
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Good Idea. The ‘Windmill Manoeuvre’ we shall call it. If worst comes to worst I’ll flail till I fly lol
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Same here! I flee most of the time. :/
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We have to do what Guap says from now on. No fleeing, more flailing. We’ll call it the Windmill manoeuvre lol
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